Our Peace May Cease
Over the last few weeks, I have discussed my classroom expectations–peace, participation, punctuality, preparation, and productivity. However, I have adapted them to fit all ages in our professional, physical, and personal lives. In these three categories, the expectations sometimes take on more of a figurative rather than a literal meaning. Regardless, there must be a balance of all three in order to achieve a positive life. BUT you may say “life happens”.
Peace might be the last thing happening in our lives. Some days I don’t even like myself, let alone do I expect anyone else to like me. Work might come unraveled. Stress inhabits all corners of our lives. Things do not go as planned. We miss deadlines or maybe we just need a break. We may have all of this pent up stress with colleagues or our work requirements seem to become more and more.
Not having inner peace with oneself and work stress might make a person come home and take things out on important people like our families, spouses, and children. We are letting them down as well.
The vicious cycle does not stop there. Our emotional peace is so draining that we do not have physical peace either. We don’t take time to exercise and move. We binge eat junk food because we think that it comforts us. Some nights we just want to come home and go to bed. Yesterday, I came home and was so exhausted that I collapsed in the recliner and could not keep my eyes open. When I do this I am short-changing the important people in my lives.
The Urge to Participate May Dissipate
Other Days we just want to rest. We want to sit back and just take a deep breath. Participation just seems like too much effort. Sometimes it feels like a daunting task to even murmur a word that is constructive. Our work flow may be overwhelming us and we just want to put it all to the side and just have a moment where we say that we have done all that is in our power and within our realm of effort, so we are not going to “bring it” on a particular day.
Because of that overwhelming feeling, it also zaps our energy in our personal lives, and that couch looks so enticing. We just want to fall deep into the cushions and not lift a finger the rest of the night. However, our spouses and children need the help and attention, but we just don’t have the gumption.
And forget about our physical lives and raising our heart rate for the betterment of our health and longevity. Maybe a nap would help us better on a certain day than that exercise which depletes our bodies of any energy we have left.
Punctuality May Not Be Reality
Some days we arrive at work on two wheels. We speed walk to our workplaces unsure of the direction we want the day to go. We are in survival mode and we are just thankful if we can make it to part of our duties. Forget about having anything together for the rest of the day.
Because of this rat race and being behind, we are also not on time with our compliments and kind words to others. We have our pedal to the floor and our head down, and we are looking to just make the day better for ourselves and who cares so much about what is going on in other people’s lives? We think they surely notice the train wreck we are living today, so why even acknowledge them?
Once we are late with everything else, physical activity also eludes us. We forget how exercise can sometimes be the best therapy we can experience. We just cannot deal with the thought of coupling physical exertion with such a mentally draining day of not being on time with anything.
Preparation May Cause Perspiration
Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, we feel like we are behind the eight ball and that we are not prepared. We plan, plan, plan, but things do not work out. This is probably one of my biggest frustrations–the way it is supposed to look in my mind vs. the way it turns out.
Again, this spirals down to a person’s personal life. It hardens us and makes us say things or do things that will place us further away from the way we are suppose to live. It makes our moral compass point in the wrong direction.
If too many of these types of days accumulate, we soon are out of shape and to a point in which we physically feel hopeless. Our weight has become unmanageable, we are out of breath just walking a short distance, our blood pressure and/or cholesterol is at a point that we are having the discussion of medicine or physical exercise to combat the problem. Consistent neglect equals poorly preparing with regard to our physical lives.
Productivity May Limit Activity
This one is simple. We don’t get our list of important things finished while at work. We have not prioritized our time like we should. Now we have the stress of coming back to work the following day with yesterday’s work plus the present day’s work. Ugh the stress of 0 productivity.
Then we take the work home in hopes of catching up, but we do not have a productive time with our kids. We may even be irritable because we feel guilty for not spending enough time with the people who really matter.
Finally, when we think that we have caught up, it is time to make supper, bathe the kids, and do homework, so there is no way to make productive use of our physical time. We say we will work out harder the next opportunity we have to go or make some other excuse.
In conclusion, all of the above scenarios probably stressed you out just reading them. Many of us can probably relate. On paper, this whole set of principles looks great. But make no mistake, we ALL fall short. However, have peace in knowing that it is okay. This leads us to our final “P” which is PERSERVERENCE. It is ok to briefly feel sorry for yourself and be a realist and understand that not every day will be hunky-dory. The beauty is that nothing is perfect, yet we can still persevere with the right mindset. So bare down, smile, and realize that tomorrow can always be better. Be intentional with the daily principles we have mentioned to have a more positive and fulfilling life. It is ultimately our choice in how we approach each day.